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Dating that fizzles. Love that slowly drifts.

Both can come from personality traits that quietly shape how you connect. HighRQ is a new way to uncover, understand, and overcome the behavior patterns holding you back — so you can build healthy relationships and thrive in them.

Your report includes your RQ score, a detailed breakdown of how you behave in relationships, and strategies to strengthen what’s working and change what isn’t.

Conceived by a clinical psychologistBuilt on validated research & over four decades of clinical experienceMeasures 63 personality dimensions
Which describes you best?

For Me

Single (just looking or actively dating), or currently committed

Uncover what causes dead-end dates, recurring conflicts, and self-doubt in your relationships — with personalized strategies to change and improve all of them.

  • Recognize the quiet patterns that shape who you’re attracted to and how you navigate intimacy — before those patterns begin making the choices for you.
  • Know exactly what you need from a partner — so you can recognize it while dating, or ask for it in the relationship you’re in.
  • Uncover your blind spots before they blindside you.
In-Depth Individual reportCore Personality report
Explore the two Individual Reports →

One-time purchase — no subscription.

For Us

Long term, brand new, or still deciding to meet or move forward.

See where the two of you are compatible and where you might clash — with personalized strategies to resolve them constructively — for both of you individually and as a team.

  • See exactly where the two of you are compatible and where you diverge — in how you handle conflict, trust, closeness, communication, and many more.
  • Know what already works between you — and how to build on it.
  • A structured conversation you have together — not a test either of you can fail — and nothing either of you has to defend.
Compatibility — Strengths & Strategies report
Explore the Strengths & Strategies report →

One-time purchase — no subscription.

Who built it

What actually makes relationships work?
Dr. Griggs spent a career finding out.

Throughout his career, Dr. Steven Griggs listened as people shared the honest, painful truth about their love lives. Somewhere along the way, he stopped being surprised: different people, same heartache, confusion and suffering. HighRQ is what he did about it — to help you recognize your own relationship challenges, understand why they happen, and give you the tools to change them.

To capture that knowledge and make it applicable to those outside his office, Dr. Griggs needed help. He turned to Steve Ahlstrom, whom he met in Lemoore, California, in 1969. They bonded over a shared love of music — spent the summer playing the guitar and gin rummy until three in the morning — and have been lifelong friends ever since. Steve translated all of Dr. Griggs’s knowledge and experience into precision-engineered software. HighRQ is what that friendship built.

The result? Decades of irreplaceable clinical experience and insight — personally tailored to you: how you relate, where you struggle, and individualized strategies to help you build strong, healthy relationships.

Read their story →See how the science works →
Dr. Steven T. Griggs

Steven T. Griggs, Ph.D.

FOUNDER · CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST

The lineage.Carl Rogers reshaped modern psychology. Dr. Griggs trained in the program Rogers founded, and its first principle runs through HighRQ: understand a person from their own point of view.
The training.His doctorate included psychometrics — the science of designing a test and proving it measures what it claims to. The HighRQ assessment is built on that discipline.
The practice.It was refined across a clinical career of more than ten thousand clients — most of it one-on-one and couples work — grounded in what he saw happen between people, not in theory alone.
Steve Ahlstrom

Steve Ahlstrom

FOUNDER · CHIEF TECHNOLOGY OFFICER

The career.A software-architecture career spent designing the enterprise systems that move money, secure data, and quietly power the modern internet — including work for Fortune 1000 companies.
The build.He translated Dr. Griggs’s framework into a working platform — the data model, the systems, and the experience that carries the full assessment to the person taking it.
The trust.Much of that career was spent in payment security and financial systems — the engineering discipline HighRQ leans on to protect something as personal as your answers.
How it works

Measures how you handle conflict, intimacy, trust, and much more.

63 dimensions of how you actually relate — not one of a few types.

Validated psychological research you can act on.

Every dimension is grounded in decades of research on attachment, communication, and emotional regulation.

AI that delivers, not decides.

The psychology and the scoring are Dr. Griggs’s. AI packages and delivers your report in plain language.

Get started

01

Create your account.

Quick sign-up — then straight into the assessment.

02

Take the assessment.

Free, 30 to 60 minutes, at your own pace.

03

See your results.

Your Relationship Quotient: one score for how you relate.

Not quite ready? Discover your RQ — free.

Finish the assessment and receive your RQ score, the range it falls in, and what that means. Decide on a report later, and it’s built from the same answers — nothing to retake.

Results include:

  • Your RQ score, with its classification and meaning
  • Your three greatest areas of strength
  • Your three largest areas for growth
Take the free assessment — see your RQ

Quick sign-up → assessment → your results.

For me

Gain clarity on why your love life keeps disappointing you — and what to do about it.

You bring the same behaviors to every relationship — first date or fifth year. HighRQ shows you, in plain language, where they serve you and where they quietly work against you.

Understand why certain people pull you in.

Your results identify the exact qualities that attract you to someone. Some genuinely fit you; others keep leading you back to the same kind of person — and the heartache that follows. Knowing which is which allows you to recognize that kind of person on the second date, not six months in.

See how you act as a relationship deepens.

The report shows how you handle closeness and what sets you off — based on your unique personality measurements, not sorted into a generic type.

Actionable strategies built from your results.

Each area for growth is paired with its own specific strategies — never a ready-made list, always steps you can take action on now.

Great first date. Then nothing. Again.
I didn’t even want anything serious.
So why does this sting?
Explore the two Individual Reports →

One-time purchase — no subscription.

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For the two of you

Understand why the two of you keep having that fight — and what to do instead.

Both of you take the assessment. One report comes back — how the two of you work as a pair.

When did we stop feeling like a team? 😔
I don’t know how to bring this up without a fight. 😕
I don’t want to point fingers. I just want us back. ❤️

Assessed individually, then compared to each other.

The report describes each of you separately first — what you need, what sets you off, how you show love. Only then does it compare the two, so every difference it finds comes with the reason behind it.

The conflicts most likely to come up — and a strategy for each of you.

It walks through the specific conflicts most likely to surface between you, explains what each of you brings to them, and gives each of you your own strategy to fall back on when they occur. This ensures that both of you are prepared with actionable strategies for when things get tough.

Scripts for the conversations you’ve been avoiding.

The report includes communication scripts for the hard conversations — what to say, and how to say it without starting a fight. You read it together; no one scores higher, no one gets blamed.

Explore the Strengths & Strategies report →

One-time purchase — no subscription.

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The Conversation Guide

Ask your partner to take it with you — without offending them, or turning it into a fight.

A free, short read, written for the one who would like to suggest HighRQ to their partner.

  1. When to bring it up — and when to wait.
  2. The words for the ask itself — so it comes across as an invitation, not a complaint.
  3. What to say if your partner calls it a test — and how to describe what it actually is.
  4. How to handle hesitation from your partner — calmly, and without pressure.

The whole guide has one job: making it easy for your partner to say yes.

For clinicians

A 63-dimension profile of how each client relates — a concrete first step to offer in the first session.

A deeper assessment to use with clients — built on the framework Dr. Griggs developed across four decades of clinical practice, and delivered as a clear, shareable read you can work from in session.

Find the root sooner.

The assessment maps where a pattern actually lives — beneath the presenting complaint — so you and your clients spend less time locating the issue and more time working it. Meaningful movement, sooner.

63-dimension client assessments.

Each client is measured across 63 dimensions — attachment, conflict, communication, regulation, and many more. The result is a case-specific profile — depth you can bring straight into the work.

Shareable, structured reports.

Each report is a clean, organized read you can hand across the room — built to open conversations, not bury them in jargon. Your client leaves the session with something they can take action on and return to before the next appointment.

A complement to your practice.

It informs your clinical judgment — never replaces it. Your copy of a client’s results is written for professional evaluation — the plain-language version is the one your client reads. AI decides nothing. The framework surfaces the pattern; the interpretation and the work stay yours.

See the Clinician Kit →
Questions, answered

What people ask before they start.

What do I get without paying?

The full assessment is free, and so are the following results: your RQ score with its classification and meaning, your three greatest areas of strength, and your three largest areas for growth. The paid reports turn those findings into strategies — each a one-time purchase, no subscription.

Which report is right for me?

Taking it alone? The Core Personality Report explains what the assessment found and what to do about it; the In-Depth Individual Report goes further: how you attach, what quietly sets you off, what to look for in a partner, and twelve months of strategies to act on all of it. Taking it with someone? Premium Compatibility — Strengths & Strategies.

How long does the assessment take?

About 30 to 60 minutes. It’s thorough by design — that depth is what makes the report worth reading.

What if my partner won’t take a “test”?

It isn’t one. The Strengths & Strategies report is built as a structured conversation you do together — nothing to pass or fail.

Is what I share private?

Yes. Your responses are encrypted, never sold, and we collect only what the assessment needs — nothing more. For something this personal, that isn’t a footnote; it’s the point.

Is this therapy?

No. It’s a structured way to understand yourself and your relationships — a complement to professional support, not a replacement for it.

Read the full FAQ →

Your next step

One free assessment. Every report starts there.

Dating that keeps fizzling. A relationship you want to keep. Plain curiosity about how you connect, romantic or otherwise. Whichever brought you here, the first step is free. Take the assessment, see your RQ, and decide about a report after. Nothing is charged until you choose one.

For one person — explore the two Individual ReportsFor two — explore the Strengths & Strategies report
Take the free assessment — see your RQ

Quick sign-up → assessment → your results.